It’s a first, half season, right? It’s just been ten episodes, hasn’t it?
Well, they’ve been doing something very, very right here. I’d like to talk about content, but - which is a first - there are feelings that stand at the forefront. I have never felt so compelled to cry over an episode of Television entertainment. It was supposed to be entertaining, and it was, but it was also a hell of an emotional ride. I may have shed a tear once or twice over a much loved character dying on a show, maybe even over something as odd as seeing a starship with the insignia NCC-1701 bursting into flames, but I’ve never had to hold back tears practically ten minutes into an episode…
I know about love. I know about struggles. Doubts and insecurities, incidents that have an impact on relationships, decisions you make lightly, but alone and simply forget, sometimes, that there’s always stuff that should be decided between the two of you, and that’s always the same whether you’re straight or gay, it does never change, it is never just easy, no matter how hard you try, no matter how dedicated, no matter how strong the bond, the love. And I know about parents not being able to ever fully comprehend. And that is also not something only happening to gay couples. There are a lot of reasons why couples can be faced with a lack of understanding from others. But certainly, with same sex couples it is almost always deemed to be an arguing point. The way I was brought up, the things I do believe, I am intimately familiar with this internal debate. ‘But I can’t change…’ And Lena’s Mom reciting Corinthians? That’s what it’s essentially all about. And here we go (a bit) into content.
I especially liked how they managed to also get the difference in backgrounds into the ‘pre-marriage-day-struggles’, working class vs. upper middle class. That sure is something that should be dealt with more often. It’s not easy to be the less, how shall I put it - resourceful partner. To show up at some family gathering in what you think is your Sunday best and see your partner’s relatives throw you these glances, even when they accept you, even love you, you’re still a bit too blue collar. Not educated enough. Not sophisticated enough. I liked that it wasn’t about Leena and Stef themselves, it was the generation before that, like some of that thinking has lost its importance over time. Very well done.
The depiction of the days before the wedding day were generally great. I loved it. Everyone having different opinions, running their mouths, being stressed, dealing with ‘normal’ life at the same time. Up to the point where you aren’t even sure anymore why you’re doing this in the first place. Except, you are. So sure. And it’s all fucking worth it. That feeling, to have found the one person you’ve been waiting for all your life? It is worth a thousand arguments. And it will always be the best day of your life, no matter what might go wrong…
There has been enough talk about the fostering, I’m not gonna delve into that at all…But Jude, he’s brought it to the point… What is a crush compared to a happy permanent home? To acceptance, love, consistency. Don’t ruin it, girl. But I am certain they’ll find a compelling way to get out of this mess, too.
The injury. Everyone who’s had a partner doing something potentially dangerous as a profession has been there. One of my former partners used to climb huge latters on a daily basis, without climbing gear, of course. It’s not the same as being in the line of fire, or even having taken a bullet to the side, but the feeling is the very same. Is today the day that something happens? Will I get the phonecall that turns my life upside down? Accepting it is not enough, You have to own it. It was beautifully and realistically depicted. Maye one of my favourite scenes.
And Dad… Here’s where I start to struggle a bit. I get it, I do. If you cannot support me, don’t ruin my day with putting thoughts in my head that can’t be there anymore, that I feel are not even my own anymore, by just standing somewhere in a corner. Yes. And no. And yes… And no. They make it all about the love, so isn’t that what’s essential then? And he loves his daughter, he does. He will stand there and watch, and smile, and hug her, because he loves her. Even though he will never wrap his head around it. She’s happy, and that’s got to be enough. I get Stef’s reasoning, but I also think it goes a wee bit against the general message of the show. To have morals. To be truthful and kind and supportive. To stick together when it gets bad and find a solution.
It’s not about him, it’s about her, yes, it’s her wedding day, the one day you want everything to be perfect. But life never completely is, so embrace that, too. At least that’s what I think.
If I ever get the chance for such a day, I would want them all there. Most of all those who don’t understand or fully support. So they can see, everyone else that’s positive about it, the joy, the love, the celebration, the emotion, the ceremony, I’d want them to bear witness to that. They’re family. I do love them nontheless. It’s what it’s all about isn’t it?
What those two are to one another, how they treat their kids, how they manage this family and the trials and tribulations, their friends and work and family, their moral standards, it’s a remarkable exception in Television shows these days. It’s a brilliantly written and acted show that has so far avoided each and all sandtraps. It’s pretty amazing to see that it can be done, actually. Finally.
I’m definitely looking forward to more, and sincerely hope the show will be around for some time, if it stays this stellar.